3 Activities to Engage In Whilst Waiting For Your Right Partner

If you have been starry-eyed waiting for the right partner to surface, then you might want to agree with me that it can sometimes be a very frustrating and daunting task. This is because meeting that special person is one scenario we all want to behold without delay. However, ironically there are times when you just must wait some more.

Before getting to the real issue in this topic, it would be needful to know who the right partner really is, as the terms have often been bastardized by all and sundry. Simply said; the right partner does vary. To some it might mean that special person who sweeps one off the feet, it could also mean saying good bye to that grouchy and violent partner, and yet to others it could signify meeting that very focused partner. However in summary, the right partner means meeting that person who is perfect for you. Perfect to accommodate all your shortcomings and what have you.

Nonetheless, it must be worthy to note that you couldn’t possibly be waiting for the right person without first being the right person yourself. Yes, this means that your period of waiting simply indicates that you must work on the very important areas of your life so that by the time you meet him or her, there is a synergy.

Here are 3 key activities you must really engage in before meeting your partner.

1. Self Excursion

This has nothing to do with a physical trip to an island or ocean. It has to do with some self expedition. If you looked back at your past relationships you must be able to decipher whether you were really self-developed or not. Truth is that you have got to learn a whole lot about yourself before thinking to meet the right partner. The reverse however is the case with some folks, as they think that first finding the person would help them discover who they really are. They simply are putting the cart before the horse. Knowing your own areas of strengths and weaknesses, as well as learning your own value system would to a large extent help you in filtering the wrong partners from the very right one.

2. Be At Your Best

Do not wait till you meet her or him before you begin to be at the very zenith of your passion. In fact, some folks especially ladies are too scared to take on some bold career steps in life because they feel that might make men steer clear them. Truth is that you meet that special person when you are at the very best of your career. Those who run away from you because of your passion are truthfully not meant for you. That special person strolls by when you are at the height of your passion.

3. Pray

The effect of prayer cannot be over flogged; in fact, if you turned this article upside down then you find that this becomes the first activity to engage in. The Christian religion holds the marriage institution in high esteem, so that it says it is a holy institution as well as a very honourable thing. For this reason, you must be willing to engage in prayers about God helping you to locate the right person, whilst the other two activities are also being simultaneously adhered to.

Would these 3 activities really help me?

You bet it sure would, as strictly adhering to these would really mean you are prepared to meet  that special person who would be glad because  you are   boldly  bringing something reasonable to the table of relationship.

Let the discussion continue on twitter on @singlescafeng or on my facebook account; Joy Akwara Nwokoro.Also feel free to reach me for relationship counseling, as well as to book me to speak at any of your relationship programmes.

I would be glad to serve.

3 Reasons Why Co-habiting With Your Lover before Marriage Might Spell Doom

 So, by now you already know that marriage is a lifelong contract and that it needs to be embarked on meticulously. Whilst some may argue that marrying their live-in lover was best for them, but with a critical look down the line, they have come to realize that such practice was charade which have caused them some hitches in future.

Co- habiting with your lover simply put means that you have come to terms with living with your partner with whom you are supposed to tie the nuptial knot with. The questions therefore are; is there really anything wrong with this? Aren’t there a thousand and one people who have treaded this path and are married today?

If you have been in doubt about this particular subject, then perhaps this read just might help. Follow me as we look at 3 reasons why this act might spell doom for you.

1. Excess Familiarity

I am sure that for the umpteenth time you must have heard the saying that goes; ‘too much familiarity breeds contempt’. Without a shadow of doubt, this is true and really holds sway with many marriages. Now imagine couples who weren’t live in lovers going through this phase, let alone live-in lovers who end up being married couples. Here is what happens; they become so used to themselves that they might even begin to take the love they share very unserious. The lesson here is that it is very needful that you wait before you are married before you begin to live with your partner so as to scale through this challenge that is capable of dealing a sad blow at your eventual union.

2. Co- habitation isn’t A Guarantee of Love

If you thought before now that living with your lover means that you would be loved more and in turn be the number one option for marriage, then you just may consider having a rethink. There is no guarantee that real love exists or might exist if you co- habited. In fact what this does is cause a great level of sexual attraction build between you both which might eventually become a stale one after you both must have become too sexually entwined. The rule of thumb therefore is to build your love independent of living together.

3. Nothing New

Ever seen a couple who have never lived together before anticipate for their wedding day? Well, if you have then you just would have realized a great level of enthusiasm that rushes through with excitement whenever the thought that   the d- day draws near surfaces. Now, you would find that the reverse is the case when you co-habit before marriage. Doing this means that there just mightn’t be anything new as you both must have seen it all, explored all that people do and what have you. Lesson here is that you wait till you are married till you co-habit.

I hope these reasons might be strong enough to help a brother or sister like you steer clear co-habitation before marriage. What’s more, much more than it being not right morally, it is a no –no biblically, especially when you are looking to enjoy a blissful marriage.

I wish you all the best as you take a cue from this post.

 Feel free to contact me so that we can continue the discussion.

Contact me on twitter via @singlescafeng or email me on singlescafeng@gmail.com

3 Signs That You Are Loving the Wrong Person

It is a huge truth that love is a very beautiful thing. This is no wonder late Teddy Pendergrass' song that has the line ' it's so good loving somebody...'  sold platinum all over the world when it hit the charts. There are an avalanche of folks who would do all they could to make sure that they loved that one person they have purported in their hearts to.

However, the truth yet remains that the hurt that goes with being in love can sometimes be a disastrous one. If you have found yourself badly hurt by that one person you thought you loved, then you might reckon with this. This is because being mere mortals there are times when you have gotten it really wrong in your love relationships that you wished you knew before hand or were a superior being who had all the powers to know all along that the person wasn't just the right person for you.

Did you know that there are tell tale signs that you could take a cue from in knowing if you are loving the wrong person? Those who have their fingers burnt in time past know that following these signs would help prevent you some great pains in future.

Are you ready for these signs? Well, here you go.

1. When You Have Butterflies in Your Tummy

Surprised why this is one of the signs? Well; do not be, as this is one of the most important signs that show you- especially ladies that you are with the wrong person. This is also known as the Red flag system. This danger sign might surface whenever you are with a particular person whom you think you love and there is always this feeling of butterflies in your tummy. Truth is that physiologists have revealed that this is only a red flag feeling trying to signal you that that person isn't the right person. It is a sign that you might be in danger of being emotionally hurt. Statistics have further gone to show that 80 percent of people, who claimed they had butterflies in their tummies when in a relationship, certainly did break up along the line, as real reasons as to why they weren't compatible came to show.

2. When You Ignore Your Intuitive Spirit

Intuition simply defined; has to do with your inner spirit communicating to you that something might not be right. However, more often than not this spirit might not explain to you why that particular thing isn't right, but gives you an affirmation that it just isn’t. Here is where some folks might miss it; instead of trying to accept hook, line and sinker that their spirit is right, they try to argue within themselves to come up with reasons why the person might be the right one.

3.  When You Do More Work

If you are in a relationship were you feel drained, then chances are that you are doing more of the emotional  work. Love is like a two way street. You and your partner have got to give your all; after all you both claim to be in this together, don't you?  So why should you be the one giving more time, energy, resources and what have you. No matter how busy your partner might be, there must be a balance.

There you have it. 3 signs that you are in a wrong relationship. It really pays to make hay while the sun shines. A broken courtship or relationship is far better than a broken marriage. Be wise and make a shift before you get badly hurt. Remember, that you can only find a blissful love relationship   when you ask God to show you the way and person.

Love Relationship Attitude For 2015

If you have been looking to convert a mere love  relationship with the opposite sex to a meaningful one that could possibly make for a long lasting one- marriage , then you just might want to agree that it takes loads of effort. This is not to say that converting a casual boyfriend and girlfriend affair into a long lasting relationship is a herculean task.  In fact it only, means that you must be very willing to do the needful, as well as have a positive mindset.

 So what does having the right mindset have to do with keeping a love relationship, you just might ask? Well, here are 3 surefire tips that you must be willing to work hard at attaining in 2015 to achieve the best.

1. Be Exact

 Here is the first rule of thumb; if you have found yourself in the wrong kind of relationship in the time past, then here is a must do for you. You have got to be exact and accurate about what you want in a love affair. Asking you the following questions just might do the risk; is he the best person for me? Are we compartible? Does he have the qualities I want? Doing this would really help in narrowing down to the real reasons why you are stuck with this person. If your answers are negative, then you just might be shocked to know that you have been wasting your time with this person.

2. Look beyond the Physical

Yes, it is a known fact that attraction has an avalanche of role to play in any love relationship. However, it just doesn’t pay when that is all you are focused on, or if that is the most you are after. To make headway in building the right relationship, you may have to make a little shift away from the looks. After all when the chips are down, the looks just mightn’t matter again. Hence, be sure to look at other positive areas of the person’s life.

3. Be Spiritual

Ever heard the saying that; “one couldn’t possibly build a blissful relationship without God’. Well, if you haven’t, then you may need to really take into consideration that it is very true. If all you want is to really build a blissful long term relationship then it becomes very imperative that you have a thriving relationship with God. Make it a point of duty to seek that special person in God. This way you are sure to make only the right choice.

 Would these tips really help your relationship?

You bet that these tips are time tested ones that have worked for yours truly and you are sure to make even more success when you strictly adhere to these rules of thumbs.

A Very Happy New Year

Hello dear all,

 A very happy happy new year to you all. 

So sorry about the long hiatus. Good news is that  Singles Cafe is here and back for good. It is our uttermost desire that you find the right relationships this year-2015. Just as usual; the aim of the singles Cafe Group just hasn't changed. We still stand by helping eligible singles get the best of  relationships. 

We intend to post very powerful articles  that would inspire and teach you about  ways  and things that you could leverage on  to have the best relationships.

Do feel free to add comments and make contributions on whatever subject posted. Lastly, do not forget that we shall always be here to take on your relationship questions and worries.

Thanks all for being there.

SINGLES CAFÉ™

      Mission Statement:

Creating an avenue where eligible singles come to connect with their ‘Ideal Life Partners’

      Purpose :

 Helping ‘Eligible Singles’ avoid unnecessary delay in getting married.

      Vision:

v  To help lay the foundation for building Families with strong value system, in the long run reducing the rate of divorce in the society.

v  Creating a forum where young ‘Separatees/divorcees ‘can go through a healing process.

Background

This inspiration was borne after an almost unending search for each other. We look back now, after garnering enough experiences from our ‘waiting period’ to our ‘finding period’, that the reason some eligible singles might still be waiting or searching is the right atmosphere to spark -off the connection needed for a lifelong commitment.

Not ruling out the fact that there might still be other issues ranging from character flaws, inability to spark off a fruitful relationship, Tribal bias, Genotype issues amongst others that surround this delay.

This highly interactive forum is set to have different eligible singles, (young executives, career people, entrepreneurs, et al) from all walks of life converge and hopefully find that special person who completes and complements them. Also to share their mistakes, experiences and to learn from one another. Over and above there will be opportunities to learn strong Biblical principles as regards singlehood & marriage and also a prayer chain to support one another.

We do not intend to make it mandatory that two people must connect with themselves and eventually get married if they are not meant for each other. We also do not subscribe or support in any way same sex marriage, As well as Racial and tribal discrimination.

We believe that we will look back some day and count an avalanche of couples that met themselves at singles Café™, got married and are living a very happy and fulfilling life together.

Gracias,

Solomon & Joy O’chucks-Nwokoro™

OUR PROFILES

      Joy Akwara-Nwokoro

Joy Akwara-Nwokoro has a Passion for stirring up the limitless possibilities in people hence she is the founder of Zealous Ministries™ a non-church based ministry. She is greatly interested in helping timid people come out of their cocoon and be the very best they can be since she had been in the same situation. A graduate of English & Literature from the Abia State University.

She is a freelance writer, the convener of the ‘Revamped Youths Image’™ bi-monthly seminar series. She is the Lead Facilitator of ‘DIVAS Conference™, a self esteem clinic that gives ladies an avenue to tackle their low self esteem and be spunky in life.

She is also a Relationship expert and together with her husband they host the Singles Café ™. A forum where eligible singles meet in a relaxed atmosphere.

She is Happily Married to Solomon O’chucks- Nwokoro and they both live in Lagos.

      Solomon O’chucks Nwokoro

Solomon O’chucks Nwokoro is the Chief Operating Officer & Co-Founder of En~Route SUCCESS Unlimited™ Speakers Bureau. He is a Mechanical Engineering by Training, Motivational cum Inspirational Speaker and A Trainer & Life Coach.

He is the author of the fast selling 180 pages power packed book titled “En~Route Success Unlimited™”. He is a UNICEF trained & certified Facilitator and Counselor, A Graduate of Morris Cerullor School of Ministry and He holds a Degree in Personal Development & Science of Success from IIGL Asheville, NC, USA.

He is Happily Married to Joy Nwokoro and they both live in Lagos.

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